WAW 20 years and wants out

[Pensacolabroken]

NFTP

Thanks. I am doing pretty good about not contacting her except when required for son or business. I am sleeping better with not as many thoughts about her and the EA/OM.

I am thinking about things I didnt think of before, like what the house will look like with her stuff out of it. I am noticing that there are pretty women out there, and I am noticing small things I took for granted before.. I have a thousand different birds and a bunny rabbit in my back yard!

Life will go on.

[NotFromThesePart]

Glad to hear it. You are doing better than I. I've got too much time on my hands, but at least W isn't here to see me in my hole.

Enjoy the boat trip. What kind of boat?

[Pensacolabroken]

NFTP,

I have a 18 foot Boston Whaler. Good for fishing or just running to the beach and spending the day.

I hear you on the time.. I am learning that idle time makes for idle thoughts.. and that is when you start to get anxious. I went to the gym for the first time since she nuked me.

I am in a similiar situation with the job. I am currently underemployed and on Leave with out pay while my company waits for a contract. I will have to deploy again for 2 month aways with 1 week home. I am not sure if I am looking forward to the deployments or not. I dont think they will matter to my marriage, because I will either trust her or I wont.

sucks all around. But I am grateful for my Son, and my friends.

[NotFromThesePart]

I'm not "deployed" but I am "at post". I've asked to be sent litterally ANYWHERE in the world but here. No dice. I had hoped I might get sent to Sweden or Brazil. Alas.

A change of scenery will do you good. If it is only a couple months I'd go for it. Plus if things are looking good w/ your W, it will be a good test for her.

[Pensacolabroken]

concur

[pookie69]

I'm not "deployed" but I am "at post". I've asked to be sent litterally ANYWHERE in the world but here. No dice. I had hoped I might get sent to Sweden or Brazil. Alas.

A change of scenery will do you good. If it is only a couple months I'd go for it. Plus if things are looking good w/ your W, it will be a good test for her.

Sweden - beautiful women, expensive beer.

Brazil - beautiful women, cheap beer.

I think I know what my choice would be.

[Pensacolabroken]

I get back from the boating trip had a good time wife not home. Log onto computer and her FB page is updated with pictures of her girls night out with her and her gfriends and then a picture of the hotel pool deck sunrise this morning and then a picture of the beach. Uploaded from her mobile Cell.

then she comes home. No talk about having our conversation like she wanted yesterday morning.

She came home with fresh vegetables and chicken to make dinner. She asked if I had plans I said yes with my family today.

Then she tells me she is going to have to go out tonight to help a charity group of women (she is a member of the Krewe) to build a float for a charity parade tomorrow and she will be in that charity parade tomorrow also.

I said "ok no problem".

then I proceeded to clean the crap out of the newly renovated bathroom because I plan to use it from now on and not the one upstairs where she is. I also cleaned the upstairs bathroom, mopped the floors and swept.

She withdraws more and more into ice queen mold. Seems the more nice I am the more she withdraws.

Oh well I will let her figure out what she wants to do. She did put away a photo almbum of our last 20 years together it was on the table, I turned it face down she put it in with all the others.

I needed to clean the bathrooms anyways.. when/if she moves out, I am going to hire a maid service to give the house a good once over and close off the rooms not in use.

[gucci loafer]

Are you so naive that you really believe that she goes out on Friday and Saturday nights and isn't hooking up with some guy?

You do realize that this is what women say and do when they are in the midst of an affair don't you?

If she WAS lying to you what excuse do you think she would use to get out of the house?

Wake up man.. wake up..

[Pensacolabroken]

Gucci I hear you but she was where she said she was last night with her gfriends veirified husband of one of the ladies. The krewe ladies did call about tonight and called me to tell me to tell her they were meeting this evening. And her fb page had one lady ask if she was coming tonight to help the float. All independendent. I can smell a duck and I saw the affair on my own when I got home. She is legite on this.

[Virtually_Handsome]

Or she could be doing exactly what she said. Why would she want to stay in the house right now?