Sleeper, Do you really want to allow your X into the picture so that she is in your house like that? You might want to think about firmer boundaries, just for your own sake.....
As far as having these conversations in front of you, it seems kind of mean to me ??
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D