Her IC told her "research shows that married couple do better emotionally in their D when they stay close friends". So I'm supposed to agree, cause research has shown it will be better for me. "people in your situation often seek separation" rather than a D.
This is total bull poop. Cite those studies. Friendly, civil... sure. No point in starting a war of emotional attrition.
I think your W is misrepresenting what her counselor has told her because nobody..., and I mean nobody who is any good at that job as a family therapist or even just an individual counselor is going to disregard what is happening to you on your end and your need to heal from this and move on with your life, and for that to happen (assuming divorce is inevitable), you need as little contact with her as possible, to clear out all reminders of her in your home, and so on, and that's what a counselor would tell YOU.
See how it is unlikely that a counselor told her that you two should be best buddies?
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
