Thank you so much for your reply! We can't email off here unfortunately unless you are in the alt...
I wondered how you handled your any irrational panics that you might have had when you started dating other people and how you framed any new relationships in your head - the expectations you had of them.
I just have this panic that if I am myself then the person will go off me and leave. I guess because I am quite a caring/ giving person and I feel like some of the reason exh went off me was because I nursed him when he was ill, but that aspect of my personality I can't seem to help! Also all the dating books say you should be cool, let them pursue you etc etc.
