Well theres your 180 KEM back off, she is a grown woman and yes it will kill you to let her find out the hard way but you must! And without telling her I told you so!
Phone calls, let her leave a message sometimes, if youre need for D3 dont leave it too long to ring back, yes she might be trying to see if she can pull your chain, so keep the conversation to D3 and dont get drawn into R talks, you shouldnt be going there anyway, its too early. If W brings some thing up, validate her feelings, if you dont agree say "I understand how you feel at the moment but its not some thing I feel or want to do which ever it is!
When ever H told me I wanted a divorce I just said "you know my feelings on the subject and they havent changed" and just walked away. NC is always more difficult when a child is involved, mine is a grown up but I had to ask him not to tell his dad everything I was doing as it was actually none of his business now, it was hard to keep mystery up with him blabbing all the time!
They will stay angry for some time, and then it will float back and forth even when youre getting some where.. Thats when you really have to hold your line! Honestly your story sounds a lot like mine, your W and my H felt they wernt being heard and could never get through, feel free to go read my story, it took a long time for me to break down H's walls but we did get there in the end!
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W 47 H 47 M 24 T 30
Once lost but now found and happily married again!
