Figuring...thank you for taking the time to come here and try to get some help with your issues before just walking out.
You are going to need marriage counseling. You are going to also have to clean up your side of the street. Your whole post is talking about your wife's immaturity, but of course, we all know that it is never one-sided. You are likely feeding off each other's negativity and neither of you ever learned good communication skills. Therefore, your first step should be to realize that you have caused 50% of your marital problems...not the 5% you probably think you have responsibility for.
This was me. A lot of my wife's issues disappeared when I got *my* Shinola together. I stopped being afraid and learned to get my anxiety under control. I'm still learning to trust. Now her rage attacks have disappeared, her anger about the housework has disappeared, her libido has returned and she's REALLY working on her relationship with the kids.
Originally Posted By: DanceQueen
All the people here are very understanding, kind, give great advice, and can possibly help you save your marriage. But YOU will have to be willing to say that YOU are willing to put 100% effort toward it. Nothing we can say will help to change HER or her behavior. I hope you understand that. DQ
Dr. Glover of "No More Mr. Nice Guy" calls this *All The Way In". If you are considering leaving your marriage, you are never really pushed to deal with the crap in your marriage. It's a problem that "Nice Guys" have. http://www.nomoremrniceguy.com/ngs.php
SpinFree
PS DanceQueen, she is much happier about my job now that I'm "all in" on our marriage. Quitting my job would have been a dis-as-ter. I would have never let got of the resentment. As it is now, letting go of my resentment has allowed me to move from covert contracts to performing true acts of service.
