Wow, sorry you are hear. But you are in the right place.
You ask if you should file and change your life for the worse, or "take the easy way out" and stay in the sitch, as if it's easier. I mean, is it?
Obviously you need your financial ducks in a row first. See the lawyer and figure out what's the best case for you and if you can make it, go for it. If your h's departure puts you in a worse situation, then do what you need to do to protect you and your children. Put THEIR needs first for now but realize seeing you happy matters a lot to THEM. If he depletes resources for OW or whatever, how does that help your kids? IOW sometimes filing protects you more financially than letting the spouse make their plans and waster more money AND that's leaving aside the crappy limbo you AND THE KIDS are living with.
As for the rest, the abuse and neglect and cruelty, I think your head is right and I believe where the head goes, the heart eventually follows. j
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
