while I can't say it's always "50/50" b/c one person CAN end a marriage, I do think the only person you can control is YOU. SO if you were to respond and react to her differently, the dynamic would change. It has to change b/c the relationship is made up of 2 people, so if ONE person changes, the relationship changes by definition. This is the crux of DBing by MWD. Have you read her books? I urge you to do that and read The Five Love Languages too.
So change YOU and see how that goes, over time. This is not a tactic to change HER but to improve your marriage. Expect Nothing immediate. You're basically going to model the behavior you want and or will accept. And of course you both need counselling. Did you get any after the first m ended? What happened there?
Retrovaille is great for many and it gives TOOLS for communication that do, over one weekend, make a difference. If you keep with their program, you'll have the odds in your favor. Good luck j
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
