Cas, in the alt many of us have names that mirror our names here. Once you are friended by DB or MWD you can look through the list of friends and find people you know from here. If you give us a hint about what kind of name you will use in the alt, we can watch for you.
Not much to report. I took D to swimming this am to allow H to sleep in as he had a particularly long work day ahead. He sent me a text later on this morning to thank me.
MIL and FIL came to dinner. Yes, they've noticed big changes in him and his relationships with the kids and his communication with him. They thought H was in 'his element' (FIL's words) having us all there for dinner on Sunday night. They noticed he was very relaxed.
Checking in to say 'hi'. I want to encourage you to keep moving forward. From what you are reporting it sounds as though the pieces of a new R with H are slowly moving into place. From a distance it looks like a "whole house renovation" in which you wait to put a wall up in one room because you know that in 3 months, when the custom order bathtub arrives, you will need to move it through that room to put it into place (hope you understand what I'm trying to say). H needs to feel comfortable that moving toward you is not going to cut him off from others (e.g. MIL and FIL).
I have not been particularly religious through my adult life (I was raised in the Christian faith), but I have seen things happen in my situation that I never in a million years thought could happen........these are like miracles to me and have renewed my faith in God. I think that he is behind the scenes orchestrating these events for both of us. Keep your eyes on your higher power and listen to your inner voice.
I like the analogy of the house GAG. This morning a girlfriend showed me some photos of her house renovation and I chuckled inwardly cos I had just read your house description late last night. Her photos showed a lot of mess, lots of obvious improvements to the house, esp the kitchen and living areas. She said they had to move out because it was a bigger job than they had originally envisaged.
Hmmm, seems to me that you are right GAG. This house renovation is all very messy, too. I can see the improvements but it's hard to see the overall picture. Like my friend, I need to keep taking photos along the way to see the improvements that are occurring slowly but surely.
Originally Posted By: goodattitudegirl
H needs to feel comfortable that moving toward you is not going to cut him off from others (e.g. MIL and FIL).
Yesterday H sent me a humorous email. He also sent it to our children, his siblings and parents. I was not on the sent list so obviously sent to me as a BCC. I thought that was interesting and I thought about it again when I read this. Is H not yet comfortable letting his siblings see that he is in contact with me? He has sent me emails before that have also been sent to his parents and our kids but they know we are in contact. The siblings don't.
Originally Posted By: goodattitudegirl
Keep your eyes on your higher power and listen to your inner voice.
trying to but must admit that I do get disheartened and wonder if I am reading things accurately.
I have had no real contact with H since dinner at his place. I messaged him to tell him of a change to D's swimming today. He replied in a very business like manner. I feel him keeping his distance now. Surely H is taking his parents to meet with ow today or tomorrow. He would have to do that to let them know all was well on that front.
This weekend is H's birthday. D invited H and his parents to go out to lunch Sunday. She wants me to go but I said I would only go if I was invited. I haven't been. I feel a shopping trip coming on!!
Just in case anyone is around today..... H invited me to join D and his parents to go to lunch tomorrow for his birthday. Do I take a gift? a card? nothing?
Last year I just sent him a text but we were on limited talking terms.
If it was a card it would have to be a basic one without sentimental verse
I don't want to be over the top with a gift. Perhaps a voucher for the local coffee/carwash place?
The longsword has serious merit (Three years ago I probably would have sourced one ASAP)......... I can visualise ways I could present it but ..........I am trying to move into more peaceful forms of communication with H these days!
