W always begins to let her guard down and start feeling things again and then a third party (family member, attorney, etc.) intervenes and she is a completely different person. I can always tell when she has spoken to someone else that encourages divorce. She starts having a completely different attitude.
I took Mr. Bond's suggestion and tried a short and sweet validation. Although, I didn't apologize for anything this time as I have already done so several times. It took a while but she did finally respond with a simple 'thank you.'
I do think I need to be careful that when she contacts me I need to be responsive, but not be 'sitting by the phone.' Other than that I need to stay detached as best I can. It is stil a learning process. I know her well enough to know that she was obviously feeling guilt b/c she doesn't know what she is running from anymore.
I also see that she feels I am still trying to control her (at least from her viewpoint) by trying to change her mind. I'm the last person she wants to give the satisfaction of 'giving in to.' So, I always pray that a different third party that values marriage will intervene and encourage her to save our family. C'est la vie. Laissez le bon temps rouler.
