farfromhome, one of the biggest probs here is you do too much for her, and she has no clue as to how to respect you for it. I think you know by now that giving her everything she wants won't work and will break you financially and emotionally. Why don't you look out for yourself for a change and realize that money isn't the magic wand for saving your R. You need to try and figure out why you keep doing this, when it has failed time and time again...really, not to disrespect you, but deep down, we have all had to do that with ourselves when we keep putting up with cr*p and giving too much. She is going to have to save herself I am afraid...don't be pulled down anymore than you already have. People that live in the material world are in constant need on instant gratification, over and over again. They drive people away if they are not honest with themselves and make a huge effort to join the real world. She fully knows that nobody else is going to help her...you have to respect yourself before she will.
