Quote: She is actually diagnosed as schizo affective so she has both of them (schizoprenia and bipolar) but btu they are udner control with her medication which she is trying to get off under the supervision of her doctor.
If she has this diagnosis, WHY would her doctor be weaning her OFF her medications? I smell a rat. Have you spoken with her doctor? See, here's what often happens with bipolars - the medications control the manic phases, but leave them feeling a little "flat". In the beginning of manic phases, bipolars feel GOOD - energetic, powerful, like they can accomplish anything - kind of like a cocaine or speed high. They miss that feeling, so they quit taking their meds. Then they become REALLY manic, their judgment goes out the window, start spending irrationally and engaging in other risky or irrational behaviors. At the extremes of mania they can even become psychotic and delusional (which may be how she got the schizoaffective label) - I know one guy with bipolar disease who was misdiagnosed and treated as schizophrenic for years - he had full-blown delusions about aliens in UFOs etc. - finally got accurately diagnosed and treated as bipolar and is now a functioning member of society.
I guess what I'm trying to say is this - you keep wanting to interact with her as if she is sane. Right now, she IS NOT. She does not have the capacity to rationally handle money, so there's no point to getting angry with her about it. Arrange for her basic needs to be met in some other way, talk to her psychiatrist about what is happening.
The good news about bipolar disorder is that it can be managed - and you did get to see some of the "sane" woman you married recently. Be patient but please be realistic.
