3 years in limbo sounds like a slow, torturous hell. I cannot even imagine.
How much longer do you want to live like this?
Fast forward to now, I have been in my own place nearly a year, she now has a boyfriend that is "very special" and will be filing for divorce this week she says. I guess what I am looking for is some advice on what to do next? I have always believed that it is never too late, I believe in the vows we took, and I believe in what we had. My freinds tell me I have to give up, its over. I am hurt and confused, I don't know who is right anymore? my convictions and my love for her tell me to hold on, that it is never too late. But 3 years, and the papers pending delivery.
3 years now, she lives with another man, you've been living alone for a year yourself... what are you waiting for to happen?
My friends advice continues to be that I just file myself. But thats not what I want so why would I do that
Sometimes what we want isn't what we get.
She says I need to let her go, I know I need to let her go
She is telling you that she wants to be let go... so let her go... "Let go or be dragged" as someone on here says...
What the he!! does she want? Just her cake and eat it too???
She has already told you what she wants and more importantly, has shown you. She doesn't WANT cake... she has the cake and is eating it in front of your face, every hour of every day and asking you if you'd like a spoon to share with her.
Do you want to share the cake? Because what you are telling her over and over again is that it's fine for her to live with OM, to stay in this limbo, and do everything she has done w/ zero consequences and that you are fine and no matter what, you are going to take her back.
