What can I say and/or think to myself when things get tense that will settle me down and keep me there with him, functioning and working towards a solution?
But seriously...
perform checklist:
1. Am I tired and cranky? Nope, then check. Yes, then... we should talk about this when we've both had enough rest.
2. Is anything more important happening? If the house is on fire, call the fire department instead.
3. Are we doing this in front of friends and family? If yes, find a room.
Supposing you pass the check list, then just remember how much it sucks down the road if you don't deal with thing. The pay me now or PAY me later principle.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
