WAW 20 years and wants out

[Pensacolabroken]

tonight is her "girls night out" she is staying in a hotel at the beach.
tonight is me and my sons night to have fun.

[Pensacolabroken]

pinhead.

yea I understand how it sounds that way. I am not trying to be passive aggresive. I want to go boating with my son and since she wants to have a conversation tommorrow evening, I dont want to pretend we are all a lovly family at the boating beach and then come home and try to dicuss what she wants to talk about (R talk maybe). I am keeping my self respect and will discuss it what ever she wants as long as she understands my boundry about OM. she has the time to choose.

[TimeHeals]

she understands my boundry about OM. she has the time to choose.

OK, just don't be suprised if she chooses not to choose (refuses to commit), and remember that is still a choice, and then there's your "boundary", paper-tiger or otherwise.

[Pensacolabroken]

Time,

I wont be surprised if she doesnt choose. I WILL be surprised if she DOES.

My boundry is not a paper tiger. It is her choice. I will respect her choice.

[Serenity13]

Pen~

I wont be surprised if she doesnt choose. I WILL be surprised if she DOES

Never underestimate the WAS...

She may do it just to keep herself in the house and take the affair underground...

If you underestimate, you will then be in the position to be blindsided and no one wants that.

(((Hugs)))

[Pensacolabroken]

Serenity,if that happens it will be lie ontop of another. When will I be able to trust her if she says she wants to R and goes with my boundries? We have to start eventually right?

[TimeHeals]

If you have to ask when....

[Pensacolabroken]

She called to check if I had my son I said I did. She is giving me the attitude again. Maybe because I don't want her to go tomorrow

[Pensacolabroken]

Time, I understand

[Pensacolabroken]

question for the group.

this morning wife is gentle, talks about how she can see a possibility of fixing the marriage. Off to work.

I disinvite her for the boat ride tomorrow she pretends like it is cool but I can tell it bothers her.

she calls to see how if I picked son up from school and I am getting total attitude.

She calls again to see how sons doctor appointment went, again total attitude and she says she will see us tomorrow after we get back from boating.

if she is really comitted wouldnt I hear a different tone? or is it possible she is angry I disinvited her to go boating?