I just hung up with my mother and found she said the same thing a lot of people have said to me. Everyone tells me that they or "so & so" lectured my H and told him to grow up and be responsible or get out and let me and my kids move on.
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I feel like everytime we are making progress someone offers poor advice and it sets everything back to square one again. How do you deal with other peoples advice towards your WAS? I wish people would stop giving leaving as an option and start suggesting he work on his marriage.
Coach is dead nuts on DB them.
I have been using the following structure to communicate and appears quit effective:
My observation, My thoughts, My feelings, my needs.
"I have noticed that you are giving advise to my spouse. I think my marriage is important to save. I feel any advise that goes against marriage from his support group is unproductive. I want you to help save this marriage by offering pro marriage advise only. Can you do this for us?"
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
