- asking if there might still be hope? You still don't get it, moving on with your life and letting go of the need for "hope" is what will get you where you need to be.
You are so attached it's not even funny.
Why do you need to see a lawyer about pressing charges on her? She went to the cops and filed a domestic assault charge on you, you do the same, if you don't, it's because you're afraid of the consequences, she apparently wasn't afraid - she's confident enough to do it, why can't you man up and do the same thing? I don't understand, it's because you're afraid of losing her, I get it but you don't get that she isn't afraid of losing you and it's that mentality that keeps you stuck to her, if you could apply that same mindset to her, you would get similar results.
- file domestic assault charges against her, if she did all that you say she did, you'll have no problems filing the charge against her - if she's txting her boyfriend on a cell phone that you pay for, cancel the contract or take the phone from her and cancel it - as for the finances, she needs to get real about how things will be working, you don't have to pay for things that you don't want to pay for, ie. her going out with the other guy, a cell phone used to contact him with, etc. - when she says that she has rights, you agree with her, you tell her "I know you have rights, but you make it sound like I don't have rights, I do have rights, and I won't let you walk all over me anymore, you don't have that right anymore" - as far as custody of your kid(s), so what if she's been the primary caregiver all this time, when you split up, things will change, that is one of them, you keep assuming that every good thing will happen to her because of this and every bad thing will happen to you, you need to snap out of that funk of yours, it's friggen deressing (she will get this, and she will get that, blah, blah, blah), you sound like a broken record - you can file for joint custody, fathers are getting joint custody, especially when they pursue it and want it and can show that they're good fathers, why do you assume that you can't? Are you a horrible father? If you u want joint custody, you can get it, you don't have to settle for what she gives you, who told you that you had to?
You will sell your house or move out of your apartment and get your own place to live for you and your kids, she will have to do the same. If you think you will be expected to pay for her entire living expenses as well as your own, you're mistaken.
How old are you anyways and how old is she? By the way you talk, you sound very young so I can't assume you've been married that long, how long do you think you will have to support her? For life? why?
Screw that head on straight and start thinking clearly and stop feeling so bad for yourself and stop feeling so bad about yourself. Things aren't as bad as they seem.
And for god's sake, stop hanging on to hope like you're going to die tomorrow or something.
It's not attractive, it's repulsive, it probably has the same effect on your wife.
Stand up for yourself, no more bs, this is how life is going to go for you now, if she doesn't want to be with you anymore, great, show her the door and wish her a good life, if she wants to be with another man, great, show her the door and wish her a good life, and get yourself a new girl who appreciates you better than this one obviously does.
