There you go, following your feelings again, assuming things are going to be "sooo hard!!"
You fault your wife for following her feelings and having an affair and all the crap that followed, but you continue to follow your feelings in how you should deal with this situation instead of setting up a plan and following it regardless of your feelings.
Sounds like a double standard to me.
She's wrong for following her feelings. But you follow your feelings and it's ok?
This is not going to be "sooo hard!!", you only "feel" it is, maybe you should start looking at the big picture, everything will be ok, everything will turn out the way it's supposed to turn out.
There are two kinds of people (well actually there's a $hitload more types of people but humor me in my example),
1. those who can see the goal without being obscured or thrown off by the obstacles that may come up along the way to achieving that goal; they are also usually positive, optimistic, very attractive type people
2. then there are those who can't see the goal because all they see are the obstacles along the way and they're just afraid and negative and pessimistic, not very attractive either
Which one are you?
I will say # 2 for you.
You can change this, this is under your control. The only thing stopping you is you.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712