"OK, that is your choice but I do know what I want. I know my decison now. I'll have my L start the process."
You lead. No anger or tears. She can't commit and that's her choice.
This is what i keep going back to pookie. Is this what i need to do right now, or should i continue on making me a better me for me and not do this. Or is me bringing this to a head to show her that i will walk and unless she says anything but ok ill commit to try, the right thing to do?