So... in the real world (assuming you aren't going to spend the rest of your life trying to attain enlightenment in some Budhist Monestary), attachment requires some understanding, care, and feeding of its own, and it helps to develop your own ability to self-soothe and self-validate along the way so you aren't completely dependent on others to be fulfilled in a relationship.
That is exactly what my W is lacking, by her own admission, and what she says she needs to improve before we can reconcile.
