How do you deal with advice?

[Jealousy]

I just hung up with my mother and found she said the same thing a lot of people have said to me. Everyone tells me that they or "so & so" lectured my H and told him to grow up and be responsible or get out and let me and my kids move on.

Although I know they mean well and are trying to open his eyes, I wish they would stop. If given the option to be responsible or leave, my H will choose leave. He always takes the "easy" way out and leaving would be the only option that he would hear.

This happened when we had our first DD too. I had severe post partum and he was my saving grace for the first few weeks, right up until someone told him I needed to be left alone with the baby to bond. He listened to the "advice" and I have resented him for it since as this was the time in our marriage I most needed him.

When we seperated last year his mother had actually said to me "I wish one of you would started dating someone so all of this would make sense". This obviously brought me to sobbing tears as soon as I hung up.

I feel like everytime we are making progress someone offers poor advice and it sets everything back to square one again. How do you deal with other peoples advice towards your WAS? I wish people would stop giving leaving as an option and start suggesting he work on his marriage.