First she has to be attracted to you. Then she has to want to work on the R. Then she has to make this known to you.
You will be attractive if you don't pursue, push or nag. You will be attractive when you get her to respect you. You will get respect when you set your boundaries. She will see that you are fighting for her without you saying a word about it.
She will let you know when she is ready to talk about R.
