So in addition to working the last resort technique should I be pushing for getting this over asap? Does that send the wrong marriage? I mean I really want her to move out if this is how shes going to act. Should I keep pushing for that or just do my own thing?

Also I am going to keep doing my 180's. Frankly I likethem, she's right I lost some of myself over the years. I'm enjoying wearing nicer clothes, exploring music & spirituality, and grooming my self better (skin care/contacts/etc) .