FindingMyVoice, I am in no way minimizing her experience. However, there is a differnce between really understanding what you've done and why vs making excuses. Right now, SoA is still sounding like she's making excuses. That's why it seems like I'm being so hard on her. I want her to get that so she can move past it.
After she accepts the reality she's in, she can begin to unravel how she got there. Naturally, it's not all her fault. Her H will have some responsibility in getting the M in trouble. BUT, she cannot allow herself to see that as justifications for what she did. See the difference?
