I understand that you feel abandonded but the distinction is important. You weren't and you should remind yourself of that when those feelings creep in.
True, we know that SOA wasn't physically abandoned by her H. She was, IMO, emotionally abandoned. I get very frustrated and upset when I hear people minimizing the long-lasting, destructive effect of neglect. It's very real to the person who's being neglected, it can be devastating. I've been there and the loneliness is unimaginably overwhelming. It makes a person desperate for any little sign from anyone that they matter; that they're important and are valued. Hang in there SOA.
Both my W and I could write volumes about being neglected in a relationship. It's horrible to feel trapped in a relationship where one or both partners have withdrawn.
