She called me twice last night at 9:15. 1st my home pbone and than cel. Something lame about oven mitts? WTF? Oven mitts are cheap! She knows sometimes I go to trivia at the local pub sometimes.
it's not about the oven mitts. you are not listening to the messages she is sending.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
There you go, following your feelings again, assuming things are going to be "sooo hard!!"
You fault your wife for following her feelings and having an affair and all the crap that followed, but you continue to follow your feelings in how you should deal with this situation instead of setting up a plan and following it regardless of your feelings.
Sounds like a double standard to me.
She's wrong for following her feelings. But you follow your feelings and it's ok?
This is not going to be "sooo hard!!", you only "feel" it is, maybe you should start looking at the big picture, everything will be ok, everything will turn out the way it's supposed to turn out.
There are two kinds of people (well actually there's a $hitload more types of people but humor me in my example),
1. those who can see the goal without being obscured or thrown off by the obstacles that may come up along the way to achieving that goal; they are also usually positive, optimistic, very attractive type people
2. then there are those who can't see the goal because all they see are the obstacles along the way and they're just afraid and negative and pessimistic, not very attractive either
Which one are you?
I will say # 2 for you.
You can change this, this is under your control. The only thing stopping you is you.
There are two kinds of people (well actually there's a $hitload more types of people but humor me in my example),
My Grandfather used to say, "There are two types of people. No, that's not right. There are three types of people. No, that's not right either. There are all kinds of people, but some of them....".
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She called me twice last night at 9:15. 1st my home pbone and than cel. Something lame about oven mitts? WTF? Oven mitts are cheap! She knows sometimes I go to trivia at the local pub sometimes.
she knew you were out, she didn't assume where though, maybe she thought you were at the pub but she didn't know for sure.
It obviously had nothing to do with oven mitts, you're smarter than that.
Listen, you have shown signs that you are no longer wanting to tolerate the current status quo with her, but you haven't completely detached. You are showing her though that you don't like it and you''re slowing becoming unglued to her, so she is checking your status, she'll sometimes take your temperature (rectal thermometer anyone?), give her real fear of loss and watch things change in a heartbeat.
give her real fear of loss and watch things change in a heartbeat
The Hot Potato. (I'm copyrighting that technique in the Pinhead manual.)
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
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M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
