I intend to live forever - so far, so good

[ImprovedRomeo]

Financial impact is the worst part about this- for me anyway. Even STBXW isn't getting rich...yet. So it's a major lose-lose for everyone.

Glad to hear about the house though, a change like that can bring some positive things into our lives. The fact that kids were having fun playing with the neighbor kids is a good sign right there. Howqever, if D11 is having a difficult time have you considered seeing a counselor for her?

As for STBXW, do you still want her back? I understand we all liked our lives pre bomb and we all want things to be perfect for our kids but sometimes we over look the fact that it's more damaging for the kids when the parents aren't seeing eye to eye or if you don't have kids would you want kids with someone who thinks so little of you to toss you out at will? It's weird, because I've seen both sides now. I DB'd and won her back but now I'm done and I'm even getting to the point where I can wish her all the best with whomever she chooses to be with. I know she gave me the best part of her; a beautiful daughter and her prime years. All this helps to move forward.