If she claims that all contact is over then I would say "I want to trust and respect you on this matter, but I need you to give me more then just your word on the matter. How can you do to make that happen?
You're catching on.
"I would really like to believe you but it's not easy when you have broken my trust. What can you do to help me to trust you again?"
So what your saying is I need to leave the whole plan that you and coach gave on the floor. Instead of asking her to commit to trying etc. I should just step away from it?
So what your saying is I need to leave the whole plan that you and coach gave on the floor. Instead of asking her to commit to trying etc. I should just step away from it?
Baby steps. Not too much at once. Deal with the OM issue and be comfortable with it first.
Just to make sure were on the same page to where the situation is at. The last words we had was a text that I sent her saying that I need time to think if I can trust her promise not to talk to OM. Won't I need to give a response to that first the next time I talk to her. If not it seems to me I'm just throwing things out there but not enforcing what I'm saying.
Just to make sure were on the same page to where the situation is at. The last words we had was a text that I sent her saying that I need time to think if I can trust her promise not to talk to OM. Won't I need to give a response to that first the next time I talk to her. If not it seems to me I'm just throwing things out there but not enforcing what I'm saying.
Take some time to think and then say "I though about it and...(previous post)"
Yea, I have reservations if I can trust her word. Which is why she would have to be willing to give more. Part of me feels that I should wait and baby step this but a big part of me feels like say what we already talked about. The other night when I told her me or him she said me. It was that feeling of loss in my opinion that made her say that. The same feeling that kept her up the night before when out of the blue I said don't contact me anymore. She could have easily said finally I can do x without him bothering me etc. But she didn't. She called twice, texted me, and jumped at the first chance to talk to me when I finally texted her back the next day. When she came over it was the first time she's been there since she go the last of her stuff a month ago. When I told her to come there she was hesitant until I told her that I had stuff to do that I would be there and didn't have time to meet her somewhere else. Since I've implemented the lrt&GAL her tune wasn't quite the same the other night as it had been.
So she should pursue before I tell her I need your commitment to us, or is me giving her the message that I know what I want if you want to meet me on this marriage then do it, if not I'm going forward like coach said the way to go? It's a chicken or egg question with me right now.
So she should pursue before I tell her I need your commitment to us, or is me giving her the message that I know what I want if you want to meet me on this marriage then do it, if not I'm going forward like coach said the way to go? It's a chicken or egg question with me right now.
Understand the difference between pursuing and leading.
You're catching on.