Thank you all; based on your input I’ve decided I want this divorce to go through. I have no desire to make more changes to who I am in order to suit her and no desire to perform gallant gestures to her in order to prove something to her. I’ve done that all already and if it’s not enough than it’s not enough. Marriage shouldn’t be a three ring circus where a person must perform constant circuses tricks in order to keep their spouse’s attention; nor should a person think of their spouse as a dog who needs to be taught right from wrong through the use of reward and punishment techniques.

I am a good hearted person, who has always provided for my family. I have always been confident in my abilities and reflective on my weaknesses. I have always strived to improve myself and my situation but never to the point of excess where I have neglected others. I deserve much better than to be a monkey is someone’s circus.

Thank you again for all your help and I hope whatever life’s issues that brought you here get resolved to your satisfaction.

Dug