When I told her the other night that if she wants me in her life that he couldn't be she said okay. I feel that I need her to offer more transparency then that. In her case though she did immediately say that she wouldn't talk to him anymore. But on the issue of us committing to get back together, i feel she is going to say I don't know whether it's from her being scared or whatever. From her it's like I get the feeling that the OM and us working on our marriage are two different issues. She has no problem saying that she won't talk to him etc when I ask, but up to this point all I've ever gotten was an I don't know when I asked her about us, which I haven't done for weeks now since I started doing all this. That's why it surprised me the other night her even mentioning we should have fixed this before we got here, should be out with friends, etc.
