I am sorry that you find yourself here. There are a bunch of great people that will be able to help you work through all the different things you go through post-divorce.
I totally get being so involved with family/kids that you don't feel as if you have an identity once that is gone. Time to rediscover yourself. You can do this. One day at a time.
big hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory