Alright pookie and coach or anyone else who wants to add a response. I feel like I've grasped most of what has been said now and I'm going to wait for her to contact me then lead her. What I want to know now is once we talk and I tell her about the other guy needing to be out of the picture and ask what more she can do then just give me her word, and validate her feelings on we should have done things in the past not to be here, we should be out with friends etc. Once I tell her that this is what I need and if she wants to be part of a happy marriage then I need her to meet me to do that, what do I do if she says I don't know? I'm not going to chase plead or any of the other negative stuff, but do I say something like if you can't do this then there is nothing else to talk about. Or do I just say okay bye and let it be. Or is there some way for me to validate her I don't know? Thanks
