MLC WIFE THREATENS LEGAL ACTION

[ericmsant2]

Bobby,

I may need a pep talk.

I am not sure that you need a pep talk as much as YOU need to go back and re-read the resources on MLC.

Do you understand what YOUR W may be going through? If so, explain it to me please.

Last evening my daughter went to a concert without my knowledge. Her mother knew and gave her permission to go.

Can you say “co-parenting”. What does this mean to YOU Bobby?

Put aside what happened yesterday, what are you going to do to make sure that this type of communication breakdown does not occur again?

Stop looking at the problem and focus on looking for solutions. Solutions that work for the kids and YOU – not your W.

I refused and told my daughter she would stay the night at my house and go to school in the am. My daughter apparently did not like this and at 1 am my dogs barked and I heard the side door close. I saw my daughter was not in the house so I called my wife who said she had picked Katie up.

Welcome to the world of kid pitting parents against each other during a “potential” divorce. You will need to figure out what boundaries and limits you are going to want to set as it relates to the kids. This is not going to be easy, so my advice is to think about it, post your thoughts here and then act when you know what is best for the kids.

I asked her why I was not informed of the concert and why she assumed I would agree to take katie to her place when I was not aware of plans.

Was that Bobby trying to TELL HER that she does not have a RIGHT to make a decision on what to do in regards to HER child? Bobby, who was responsible for the majority of the parenting in the past? Your W or YOU? And since you QUESTIONED HER…you now got….

She hung up on me.

THIS ^^^^^ - you challenged…you tried to impose YOUR thoughts and opinions and right now Bobby this is ABOUT her. Ya see, this is why we tell you NOT to try and impose a boundary UNLESS you are really ready to enforce it. Your not Bobby – your just not. Not yet….that time will come though.

I sent her a text message saying I was not a doormat and was not for her quick fix in her plans.

You are only a doormat if that is how you feel. Ask yourself…was this worth it? Really was it?

Things are getting very frustrating for me.

This chit aint for the weak at heart. Or another way to say it…it aint for wussies. I am not call you a wus…I am just telling you that you may be in for one hell of a ride and you have to ask yourself can you take it. Can you Bobby? Remember all of those post about just how much you love her? Remember your undying commitment to her? Time to show her bud – and you show her by……by what Bobby – you tell me.

She has not said anything more about divorce papers and just seems to be very angry and stressed.

What do you think she is going to share all of her tricks with you? She may not be thinking about it, she just may? Are you here just to save your marriage or your soul?

Is there something I am missing here?

Yes – you keep thinking that something you do or say will change this. You keep thinking that by being really nice she will just wake the f*ck up. Go read the resources Bobby. Read ‘em a few times. Realize that her journey is about HER. Your needs, feelings do not matter right now (the key word being now). So we keep telling you to make this about YOU Bobby. We keep telling YOU to focus on YOU Bobby. We keep telling YOU to work on yourself. And dude – I don’t see you doing that.

What I see is you constantly talking about her…about what she is doing to poor old Bobby. Fuc* that Bobby – go live your life dude. Let her figure her chit out, when she does she may look at you and realize that what YOU HAVE BECOME….is really what she wants.

Stop looking at her Bobby – please.

God Bless,
Eric