WAW 20 years and wants out

[TimeHeals]

She cant keep it going, I am not going to allow it.

Look, I think you have everything a bit backward here.

She can do whatever she wants to do whether you allow it or not.

You can do whatever you want to do whether she likes it or not.

That is reality.

You cannot control her, and I get a vibe that this is exactly what you are trying to do.

But just because you can't control her doesn't mean you have to tollerate disrespect of allow somebody else to abuse you and your trust.

You do have a choice, but making her do something is not one of them.

That is clear and the boundry remains

Uhh huh. A boundary isn't a boundary if you won't enforce it.