WAW 20 years and wants out

[Pensacolabroken]

Time,

She cant keep it going, I am not going to allow it. That is clear and the boundry remains.

Sandi,

I have dropped the rope. I told her I wanted her to move out and get her own place so she can be with whoever she wanted. That is when she discussed more details about her EA/OM. I told her, I didnt want to hear anymore until she is open and transparent about him. That has not changed.

I know the hug is simply her way of attempting to meet me somewhere emotionally. I didnt fall all gooey over her.
I do see your point about being under her contol by validating that I didnt leave the note.

We did not make up last night, we discussed the injury for the first time and for the first time she cracked a little of the veneer.

Fast forward this morning..

she comes down stairs and asks me will I be around tomorrow. I said in the afternoon why? she said she enjoyed our talk last night, that is was a good one, and she would like to talk more about things. I told her I appreciate that and agree that there is more to discuss. She told me she can see for the first time that there is a possibility of things working out and she is telling her co workers and family to back off and respect her and I that we are working on it with the Marriage Counselor and each other... I dont know where that came from. I said simply thank you, I respect that. She then walked over and Hugged me again very close, and I broke off first and she went to work.

so there it is...

I am looking at the event and thinking ok now what? I dont want to pick the rope back up.. I WILL NOT DROP THE BOUNDRY, so how do I proceed?

I dont want to be cruel or push her away if she is agreeing to the boundry and is reaching back. I am also not melty into her, but I am trying to find the balance of compassion also.

Serenity I could use your advice here.