Stop. Take a deep breath. Hold it. Now let it out. Nothing has to be done or decided this split moment. This place is chock full of people with the same experiences/emotions as you.
I believe it's Cadet who will be around soon to give you some primary reading to do. Do it, and keep it where you can get to it handy, because you will probably need to re read it again in time.
We all believe infidelity is the deal breaker until it happens to us and we love the person.This is my second go-round. Husband did this 8 years ago, came to his senses and we resolved. Now, here I am again, and with a vengence. He never finished his MLC, just post-poned it.
This is a bone achingly slow process. We will have different results. Some will reconcile, some will not, but you have to keep taking care of you, and your children. Top priority. There is only one adult now, and it's you.
Visiting this board will help you heal You. Your H is on his own. You are going to hear this a lot. You didn't break him, you can't fix him.
Stick around, you'll get a lot of wonderful support.
ME: 54 Him: 51 M: 20 years T: 21 years OW/New wife: 36 Sons & Daughters: 7 (ages 24-36) Bomb: March 4, 2010 He Filed: April 28, 2010 I Contested: May 1, 2010 Standing Down: 11/24/10 Divorced : 05/04/2011
