most of the time I hardly think of her as being human at all
Dehumamization? Doesn't sound very healthy, empathetic or enlightened.
Empathetic? He's still having to deal with the reality that his wife cheated on him, tore their family apart, destroyed their marriage, caused their children tremendous emotional grief, and basically impacted the lives of all the family members in negative and painful ways! I doubt that empathy for her, understandably, is paramount in his cognitive processes right now. More like 'repay with extreme prejudice, with interest'. :-D I think that letting go of your pain and movin' on with life includes forgiving the past...it doesn't have to be more specific than that.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
