Hey Sandi,
Thanks for the advice & I always learn something new from it so I appreciate it. It's been tough to say the least, & just like you, me & my IC we all think OM is involved in one way or another; without you guys I would be lost. So thanks

Do I want to be friends no, but I'm tired of being angry, being stuck and, trying forgiveness (which is tough) so that I can move on.

At the moment I don’t think even if I told her there would be no buddy-buddy system it wouldn't make much difference. None of this was my choice, but I have no control of her or this process only me. Until the OM is out of the picture or even if someone else is (which I doubt)! There is no chance for any R for us.

I do have to say to books that have helped in more ways than I thought were The Dalai Lama Finding Forgiveness & I know kind of silly but Mars & Venus Starting Over. This journey just sucks & somedays are good, ok,& other days I just want her back. Well thanks again will keep in touch have a paper to write for school. Talk to you later Hope