You got that right, sister. It took me forever before I would tell my H I was sorry. One reason was b/c I thought he acted so self-rightous when he said I hadn't even apologized to him, but the second reason was b/c of my closed heart. It sure made a difference in my sleep, once I did. But, do you know that he sat there while the tears streamed down my face and never said a word? I wanted to shake him! (No, not really.) I could see it in his eyes. He had forgiven me long ago--but he needed to hear it and I needed to say it.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
