Retro was shot down. She now says that what she had said was that she had said was "I would do anything for my babies." Not that she would try to reconcile. That if she had to pretend to be a happy wife to make me happy, she would, including sex.
I told her that I misunderstood what she said and her intentions, and that have a fake marriage for the kids was a horrible idea; that if she was willing to go to Retro with an open mind and an open heart towards reconciliation, I think it might be valuable to us. She didn't want to work on "us." That sounds harsh, but it wasn't a harsh conversation, just both of us trying to clear the air.
She said that I was confused because I didn't understand that men and woman can be close, emotionally intimate friends without any romance. I disagree, but I didn't tell her that. Just listened to her, and said that I agree that it's very important for a couple to be close, intimate friends.
We talked a bit more, I said I was going to take the apt that's being held for me. She said she just needed to be able to think about everything, about how she felt for me separate from our daughters. That the time apart would be good, but costly financially. Talked about what I'd be taking, when I'd move, so on.
She stressed that this would be a non-legal thing; just a year at the most, not a set in stone separation. Knowing now, I see that she was really asking me those as questions, not statements. I agreed with all of them.
She said that if I found someone, I shouldn't miss out by waiting for her to come around. That she wanted me happy. I think she was sincere, and not meaning that she had already found someone.
I'm actually relieved and excited. Relieved that the sitch is changing, and excited for what the future holds.
