Finding My Way

[Mystik]

I have a question about "lovingly detaching". The terms seem contradictory. To detach means that you aren't affected by the other person's words or action, you don't care anymore. Yet to love someone you are concerned about them, and their words and actions affect you. So how can you detach from someone and still love them?

I think I'm going to take the advice of Daughtry in their song "Learned My Lesson". I'm better off "to turn out the lights and close up shop". I love my H but don't know if I can get past Whore and It. So rather than spend the rest of my life in broken relationship after broken relationship, worrying about how anyone I meet is going to feel about my son, I'll just give up now. Besides, I don't know how to behave in a relationship. From watching my mom is how I learned to be the primary caregiver for the kids and do everything for the husband so he didn't have to while not doing anything to antagonize him so that's what I did in my marriage. We all see how well that worked out for me. So rather than waste some guy's time on a relationship that is only going to fail, I'll save them the trouble.

My sister is perfectly content with just her and her daughter, my son should be enough for me, too.