Thank you for the update. I really wish I knew something new to say. I feel as though I repeat myself all the time...and probably do (lol). You are in a place that I have not been, so all I could do would be say the things other well-meaning friends would tell you....like to stay strong, etc.
I personally think your W is cake eating, but what you are doing sounds like the kind of stuff Michele teaches. But, I'll tell you this (maybe have already), when I was considering leaving my M, I would have been tickled pink if my H would have been my best friend. When he told me there would be no buddy-buddy system....it got my attention and I could not see my life without him fitting in there somewhere. That's why I tell a lot of men that say they are their W's best friend...they don't want that. Let the W's girlfriends be their BFF, not the H.
Anyway, I hope you will be good to yourself and you know how "you" have to be to live happily.
Take care.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
