W text and called again about D3 needing something for school. I called back about 1 hr. later. W was angry. Asked why I haven't been answering her texts and calls over the past several days. Then said she wants to revisit our custody agreement b/c D3 has been acting out and needs more stability. Uh, sorry, she's the one that moved out and I tried to tell her before that was going to happen.
Then she said she wants to take D3 to psychiatrist. Tried to tell her she doesn't need a psychiatrist - what she needs is a loving two-parent home. W said D3 would need a psychiatrist if we stayed together. Told her "I don't want to be a part-time dad, and I know you don't want to be a part-time mom." She replied, "see its about you again."
Then she got mad cause I haven't done anything to get rid of our house. I told her that I may keep the house. She wasn't happy with that either as she is staying at her grandmother's.
Then she got mad that I hadn't switched the utilities into my name.
Then she got mad that I hadn't signed the consent agreement. And said, " see that is one of the reasons I left, because you're lazy!" I tried to tell her that I didn't sign the agreement not b/c I'm lazy but b/c it was a symbol of moving forward with breaking up our family.
I didn't take the bait in fighting. Mostly just let her vent and was agreeable with things. She started getting into R talk (mostly about past), and I followed right along, then she said, "I don't want to talk about this right now." So, I agreed to stop.
So, have I taken a step back by 'going dark/detaching'? As now she is angry. I'm thinking of sending her an email, not to chase, but to state my case and make sure she knows exactly where I stand at this point.
I did tell her "I love you." Of course, I didn't expect her to say it back and she didn't.
Can't be good that she is angry. I was obviously making her frustrated by not begging or arguing. She was getting so tense with our conversation and I wasn't. Should I send email? She doesn't realize how much I'm trying to protect her from the mistake she is making.
