WAW 20 years and wants out

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TEST.

she came home smiling and happy.. then wanted to kind of talk about, my lawyer is cheaper turns out.

We go upstairs and she says "you cant kick me out" I say I am not kicking you out. You have a choice. You are choosing and I am giving you what you want. She says "that pissed me off you are not "giving" me anything. So I said youre right, I am "accepting your decision to keep the OM" but you cant have me. She said so I just delete him off FB and all is good? I said NO you delete him, and then show me your cell phone when ever I ask and you give me your FB and EMAIL passwords.. she said I am controlling her.. She said this would be easy if she just could beleive I was not controlling her.. I said I am not controlling her she is free but these are non negotiable to me.

Didnt want to bring it up but she did.

She said I am hearing you and what your saying but it isnt going to happen over night. She then said it is not about him. I said BS it IS about him and we have no chance of any relationship with him in the picture. She spoke calmly and Rationally and I did also.. she said I am committed to counseling on next week and we will see what happens.. I said you know what my principles are and this is not to punish you, but I will not accept you and your affair in my marriage.. she tried the separated line again and I said this is your choice.

she said I am thinking about things but I think youre still controlling me. I said I am not. it was her choice.

more CB but we ended by thanking each other to listen to the other and off she went to TKD..

I didnt give in.

She said look we had an emotional day and I want to go to TKD and I am thinking about everything.. off in her car she ran