"Mrs Pin, I have been doing some thinking and here is what I have decided.
I have a proposal for you. I will hold off on moving out on the condition that "we" agree to attend the Retro sessions. I ask for nothing and offer no promises, but I think it would be a wise thing for us to attempt.
That is it. She either agrees or she doesn't......
Remember Pin, Counseling is known to help couples IF they both are willing participants. She now seems as if she would be a willing participant. Isn't that usually the first step in most issues? Being willing to find a solutiion...
Your leverage here is the fact that you offer nothing on your end except participation and that you have the moving out option as a backup. You are not doing this out of desperation like many other men in these situations. It is now more out of strength...
