A good example I can give from my own experience is that when we separated I stayed in our apartment in the burbs and my wife moved into the city.
She does not own a car, and either rides her bike or takes public trans. everywhere.
It is very much an inconvenience for her to come out to see me. She has to walk to the train, wait for the train, pay for the train, ride the train, etc...
But you know what?
She does. Because she tells me that she likes to come and visit me at my apt. So as much as its a pain for her to do it, she does... At least once a week she drags her cute little a$$ to the train station to come see ME.
Little things like that, over time, are what you need to see.
