Then how do you validate someone saying they haven't been sleeping good lately or that we should be out with friends. Those aren't feelings. And if the thing that I'm suppose to validate are the underlying feelings that she is having that leads to those statements then am I not assuming what her underlying feelings are?
Her statements are actually questions.
"What would you do for me so I can sleep better?"
"Would you take me out to have dinner with friends again?"
She is asking for your help to feel differently. She does not like the way she feels about the whole sitch.
