Repeating myself over a single issue feels like nagging to me....I have communicated this before and she knows it.
Yah, I get what you're saying. I've been there. Just try to give her the benefit of the doubt sometimes if you can. (of course, not to the extent that you end up feeling disrespected... don't want that for you)
I know you know that behavior change takes a long time and it's hard and can be scary. Sometimes it takes repeating what you need a few times. If she doesn't 'get it' right away, it doesn't mean she's not trying.
I agree. We are very similar when it comes to communication which also means that we suck equally.
I always try to think how I would like someone to tell me their displeasures and try to talk with that in mind.
Behavior change has already happened. I am looking for consistency now.
I agree. We are very similar when it comes to communication which also means that we suck equally.
Lol! Been there at 'equal suckage' too.
Originally Posted By: pookie69
Behavior change has already happened. I am looking for consistency now.
Consistency is a nice thing, but leave room for her to be human; to make mistakes.
Hey have you read any books on communication? I've read one recently that is frigging amazing. Some enlightening concepts on 'attributional error'. Happy to pass on the name if you're interested. If that's not your 'thing' though - no worries.
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
It's called Crucial Confrontations. Heavily slanted towards conversations in the workplace, but the theory behind it makes it equally applicable to relationships. An exceptional book.
PS I've always wanted to ask... where'd the screen name come from?
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
Lol! Been there at 'equal suckage' too.
