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[ericmsant2]

Irish,

Is it possible that H's claim that he never wanted to marry me / that he felt "trapped" / that he thought he would marry a "tier 1" beauty - etc.

Anything is possible Irish. The bigger question is……do you believe that you are a tier 1 beauty? If you do not, then YOU should ask yourself why?

Hey look you know I can be pretty brutally honest.

So here goes….

Irish – F*CK YOUR H right NOW. Let me repeat F*CK YOUR H right now. F*ck what he thinks, F*ck what he does, F*ch what his opinions are. Just F’em.

Is it possible that these statements could be true? We had so many laughs, smiles, moments, touches, etc. - could those have truly been fake?

Irish, go read the MLC resources again. Your H is totally fuc*ed up in the head right now. You need to stop paying attention to what he says. You are allowing your thoughts to bring you down. Stop it!

You continue to spin because you continue to tie YOUR value, YOUR self worth, YOUR identity to what YOUR H says and does.

I am sorry for being so hard with you Irish, but you keep getting on the hamster wheel and spinning, and spinning.

Get off the hamster wheel for a while – hey just for a week – ok?. Stop looking at YOUR H and start looking inside yourself for a few days AND when you LOOK – consider this….

1) Who gave birth to 2 wonderful children
2) Who raise these 2 wonderful children
3) Who continues to be a ROCK for these wonderful children
4) Who get’s up and works 12 hours days in order to provide for these wonderful children
5) Who was attractive enough to have….”fun” with her H, which resulted in wonderful children
6) Who was attractive enough to remain married for 25 years
7) Who is the one keeping the house up to snuff
8) Who is the one who kept her word when she committed to her H
9) Who is the one who is standing and NOT running
10) Who is the one that is doing EVERYTHING in her power to keep her family together
11) Who is the one who has not quit
12) Who is the one that makes sure that the kids get to where they need to get to
13) Who is the one who sacrificed to keep the M going
14) Who is the one that sacrificed herself for her family
15) Who is the one who continue to give
16) Who is the one who has not run off into the arms of another
17) Who is the one that is doing the work
18) Who is that tries to keep the peace
19) Who is the one that picks up after the kids and the dog
20) Who is the one who is trying to live and honest life

The “who is the one” is YOU Irish.

Your H does not define YOU.

Your H did not make YOU the mom that you are

Your H did not do the work

You did all of this Irish and guess what….that makes YOU special. AND nothing YOUR H, your mind, your feelings, your fears, your insecurities – nothing can change that FACT!


Irish – It’s time to stop running.

To stop running from YOURSELF.

Time to stop and realize just how wonderful you are.

Time to stop giving YOUR H the POWER over YOU.

Time to stop running around and around on the hamster wheel.

Time to Be YOU Irish.

“Fear not – for thy God is with Thee”!

God Bless,
Eric