Those who's WAW wanted to work on M

[bustorama]

Re: W approaching IDEA of recon in case where the LBS (and not WAS) has committed adultery and the W is hurt and mistrustful about that, are the principles any difft?

In my case, I have changed my behaviors and am continuing to GAL/do my own thing. When W calls me to have family lunches/dinners, I go and she has said once every few weeks something like IF WE RECONCILE, COULD WE DO THIS (get a dog, remodel this room, etc.). In past, I have avoided getting at all melty man but more or less said, yeah that could be great, remodeling that would be great, I'd like to get a dog or two, etc. But, not pursued the idea of reconciliation, just left it at that. Should I be more removed and say, you know, I am not sure I want to reconcile, I like my new life, and maybe it's best we move on? I can't help but think that another push back like that would be a nail in the coffin after the rejection of your spouse cheating on you?

Thoughts?